The Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) approach offers a relational alternative that prioritises adult presence, emotional regulation, and systemic support. It provides EPs with a thoughtful and ethically grounded framework for supporting families experiencing entrenched difficulties.
We recently hosted a webinar on NVR with Dr Carina Embeita, Educational Psychologist, Systemic Family Therapist and NVR Practitioner, who is currently also an honorary research fellow at UCL. Speaking in an independent capacity, Carina covered the background and concepts behind NVR and how these can be used in EP work.
What is NVR?
Developed by Haim Omer in the early 2000s, NVR supports parents and carers of children presenting with violent, controlling, or self-destructive behaviours. Rooted in the principles of peaceful resistance, the approach helps adults re-establish their presence and connection with the children and young people, by resisting their harmful behaviours through de-escalation, self control, non-violent resistance methods and reconciliation, without resorting to punishment or withdrawal
Rather than focusing on changing the child’s behaviour directly, NVR strengthens the adult’s self-control, presence, and relational influence. Widely used across Europe, it is increasingly adopted by CAMHS, Social Services, and other professionals in the UK.
NVR is grounded in key psychological and systemic concepts:
NVR promotes authority rooted in self-regulation and relational strength - not fear or control. It shifts parenting focus towards presence, reflection, openness and reconciliation. The approach offers structured strategies, including 'Behaviour Baskets', reconciliation gestures, de-escalation strategies and establishing support networks.
Once the foundation is in place, NVR introduces more structured actions. These tools are used carefully, within a context of emotional safety and support.
After undertaking full training, NVR can be used effectively in EP Practice, offering:
Full foundation training in NVR is available from several UK providers, with a growing network of trained professionals. Examples of further reading and resources for training available are detailed at the bottom of this page. Please note this is not an exhaustive list.
We are also pleased to share details of the Special Interest Group: NVR in EP Practice - please complete this form if you’d like to take part or find out more.