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Non-Violent Resistance (NVR): A Structured Approach for Educational Psychologists

17/06/2025

As educational psychologists (EPs), we are often called upon to support children and families experiencing high levels of conflict, control, or withdrawal. In such cases, traditional behavioural strategies may fall short.

The Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) approach offers a relational alternative that prioritises adult presence, emotional regulation, and systemic support. It provides EPs with a thoughtful and ethically grounded framework for supporting families experiencing entrenched difficulties.

We recently hosted a webinar on NVR with Dr Carina Embeita, Educational Psychologist, Systemic Family Therapist and NVR Practitioner, who is currently also an honorary research fellow at UCL. Speaking in an independent capacity, Carina covered the background and concepts behind NVR and how these can be used in EP work.

What is NVR?
Developed by Haim Omer in the early 2000s, NVR supports parents and carers of children presenting with violent, controlling, or self-destructive behaviours. Rooted in the principles of peaceful resistance, the approach helps adults re-establish their presence and connection with the children and young people, by resisting their harmful behaviours through de-escalation, self control, non-violent resistance methods and reconciliation, without resorting to punishment or withdrawal

Rather than focusing on changing the child’s behaviour directly, NVR strengthens the adult’s self-control, presence, and relational influence. Widely used across Europe, it is increasingly adopted by CAMHS, Social Services, and other professionals in the UK.

NVR is grounded in key psychological and systemic concepts:

  • Parental Presence: Re-establishing consistent, caring adult involvement.
  • Attachment and Anchoring: Supporting emotional stability, especially in adolescence.
  • Systemic Support: Building a trusted network to reduce secrecy and isolation.
  • Escalation Awareness: Disrupting patterns of conflict or appeasement and practising de-escalation.

NVR promotes authority rooted in self-regulation and relational strength - not fear or control. It shifts parenting focus towards presence, reflection, openness and reconciliation. The approach offers structured strategies, including 'Behaviour Baskets', reconciliation gestures, de-escalation strategies and establishing support networks.

Once the foundation is in place, NVR introduces more structured actions. These tools are used carefully, within a context of emotional safety and support.

After undertaking full training, NVR can be used effectively in EP Practice, offering:

  • A clear structure for formulation-led casework
  • An alternative to punitive or control-based interventions
  • Acknowledges attachment theory, trauma-informed, and restorative models
  • A means to build parental capacity while reducing escalation

Training and Further Support


Full foundation training in NVR is available from several UK providers, with a growing network of trained professionals. Examples of further reading and resources for training available are detailed at the bottom of this page. Please note this is not an exhaustive list.
 

We are also pleased to share details of the Special Interest Group: NVR in EP Practice - please complete this form if you’d like to take part or find out more.

 

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